Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Steps to setting & accomplish our goals.

It's a new year! We all know the tradition of setting goals at the beginning of the year. This post is to aid and encourage you to set a goal this year, and accomplish it.
"believe you can train yourself to become a positive thinker, but you must cultivate a desire to develop the skill of setting personal worthy and realistic goals. I am so thoroughly convinced that if we don’t set goals in our life and learn how to master the technique of living to reach our goals, we can reach a ripe old age and look back on our life only to see that we reached but a small part of our full potential. When you learn to master the principle of setting a goal, you will then be able to make a great difference in the results you attain in this life."
-Elder Russell M. Ballard
Here are 10 steps to better help you accomplish your goals:
1. Pick ONE Goal:
This is important! You can only achieve your goals if you focus on them one at a time. Once your goal has been accomplished or made into a stable habit you can start on the next goal.
2. Start Small and Easy:
The best way to succeed with your first goal is to pick something you are already doing, once in awhile, but want to do daily. This will build your self confidence as you achieve the goal and help prepare you to work on future goals.
3. Simplify:
Choose a small, specific goal, or break up larger goals into small pieces that can be done on a daily basis. Big successes start with little ones.
4. Write It Down:
Write your goal in large letters and place it where you will see it several times a day. Putting your goal to paper makes it official: You Want It!
5. Keep Track Every Day:
This step is VERY IMPORTANT! If you don't keep track of your daily progress you won't progress. Everything we accomplish takes DAILY steps which turns the goal into a habit. See page two for a list of fabulous "Goal Tracking Tools and Ideas" to help you record your daily progress.
6. You Have To Want It:
If you don't really want to do it, you won't succeed. Pick goals you want to achieve or change your attitude so you REALLY do want it.
7. Schedule Time:
Here are three ideas to help you make time for your goal:
Prioritize: Make time by not doing things that are of less, or no, value. Hours in front of the TV or computer can be used productively by first pushing the off button, or just walking away.
Say No: Learn to gracefully say no to those who ask for your time when you already have too much to do. Saying no can be done in a kind way, just be clear that you cannot do what is being asked of you.
Make the Time: You have to MAKE the time or you won't MAKE the goal. Pick a time when you will work on your goal, such as early in the morning, late at night, during lunch, when children are napping (watching TV, playing with a friend/spouse), or when you're waiting in line for something. If you "just don't have the time" then wake up earlier. Most people only need 6 hours of deep sleep. If you have trouble sleeping try the following: don't eat after 8:00 and don't rehearse the day's events or tomorrow's plan. Instead focus your mind continually on a black hole of nothing. This always works for me, if I do it!
8. Be Firm Yet Flexible:
To achieve your goal you have to be firm with yourself. You have to do the required work to accomplish your goal. You also have to be a bit flexible. Make a backup plan for days when achieving your goal might be difficult. i.e. If your goal is to study the scriptures daily and you know on Friday you'll be running errands the entire day take your scriptures with you. Study them during the moments you're waiting for something to happen, such as standing in line. BUT be firm with yourself that this is ONLY for rare occasions.Also, if your goal is something that you want to do six days a week but not on Sundays you can pick a similar activity to replace your goal. For example: One of my goals is to work on my writing, so on Sundays I write in my journal which counts to wards achieving my daily goal.
9. Be Positive:
Doubting thoughts, and words, will crush your goal. Think and say positive things. Robin S. Sharman's suggestion is to "Talk to Yourself" by picking a positive, "phrase that you will train your mind to focus on at different times through out the day until it begins to dominate your awareness and reshape the person you are." (Who Will Cry When You Die?) For example: If your goal is to eat healthier you could say, "I'm grateful I only eat healthy foods" or if you want to be more patient say, "I'm thankful I'm patient." Robin teaches us to repeat the phrase 200 times a day (that's 10+ times an hour) for four weeks. I have used this practice, and will continue to do so, because it really works! It has turned my most negative, consistent thoughts into a positive reality.
10. Pray About It:
Choosing righteous goals is just what the Lord wants us to do, so ask for his help. As you daily pray and work to wards your goal you will see daily success.
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